Friday Talk: Embrace The Change

I have always been an adventurous person at heart. Everybody in my circle knows me for that: always trying new food, new trends, new style (hairstyle), traveling to places on a whim... I'm pretty sure if I had another middle name is would be adventure. Although, I am the kind of person not to shy away from doing those big jumps, I can be ridiculously reticent when it comes to having small changes implemented to my everyday life. When I say small changes I am talking about even switching the place I get coffee from or the order I get when I walk into my usual coffee shop (Starbucks) * No I'm not a snob, I just like good coffee :)*
And it is funny because I even though I hate doing things routinely, I have come to the realization that I have created my very own and personal routine which has turned out to be pretty difficult to alter in any shape of form. But it is not only those small changes that I find difficult to embrace. I also tend to find it very difficult to embrace changes that affect my future such as being in a relationship, getting married, having kids, enrolling into a program I want to get a degree in and probably, the scariest of all, switching jobs (which I recently did). I know right?! very brave. I deserve a red velvet cupcake for that. No? okay...

And I know, you are saying behind your screen "well these are big changes so it is normal that it freaks you up" and I know that. And I totally understand it. But I think beyond the change itself, it is the uncertainty that comes with it that scares me. It is the idea that the choice I am about to make will forever change my life that just scares the living life out of me and gives me all types of panic attacks a human being can possibly have. And I think with the cycle I have been through during my 24th year, life has been trying to teach me something about that, about the fact that as I am growing up there is a need and urgency for me to learn to embrace change.
From all the situations I have been confronted to from the moment I turned 24 to this day, the only thing that has remained constant in my life was change. Not that there hasn't been any change from the moment I was born to the day I turned 24. There were changes but there were in a sense not as noticeable as the ones I have experienced this year considering that all of those situations I was confronted to were happening one after the other. I had to learn and grown comfortable with being uncomfortable. I had to learn to navigate the shallow waters of adulthood and find my way through life in times where the sky was clear AND in days where I had limited visibility and the horizon couldn't be seen from where I was standing in life.

One thing that kept me going on those day was Jeremiah 29:11 and my faith because truly I had nothing else besides that. Of course the people who know me would say "well you are brilliant, young, smart, you have a great heart, you are a fighter" and bla...bla...bla... But some people out there are more talented, smarter, better at what I am doing than me but still haven't made it so far. They  haven't been as successful at navigating the shallow waters of adulthood and the lot of hassle it brings the way I did. So what makes me better than them? And my answer to that was my faith, my resiliency and my capacity to adapt to change; and if I can retain one thing from my 24th year, it would be that when you are brave enough to say goodbye, life rewards you with new and beautiful hellos. I have also learnt that change is not always the negative thing we have been taught intentionally or by default to dread. 

A change is an opportunity to be a better version of yourself, to go beyond limits and obstacles you never thought you would. A change is a transformation that will bring into your life something/ someone better than what you thought you could ever have. A change is a time to break the shell you have been living in and discover a new world you have been closed to exploring because you were too afraid to do so. A change is a trial that life throws at you to see if you are brave enough to unleash your inner Spartan in order to fight and defeat the odds. Don't get me wrong:  there will be times where things will not workout but as long as you keep in mind that everything in life serves a purpose and you learn the lesson behind it, you will always get back on your feet, no matter how long it takes or how hard the transition is.

So smile and embrace change and the endless possibilities you get to be a better version of you that comes along with it :)



Until next time,
xo