"People will do anything to have you until they realize they cannot handle
the reality of you"
Most of the time we walk into relationships with that idea of
perfection about the person we are about to enter that adventure with. We walk
in with that idealization of the relationship looking at it through rose tinted
glasses. But this is not what love is. Love is not all figured out. Love can be
messy and complicated sometimes. But it all comes down to taking a pledge to
work it out and stick together through thick and thin.
Love is understanding that sometimes we fight but it doesn’t
mean the love is gone. Because the truth is the minute one party doesn’t bother
enough to engage in the resolution of a conflict, it means that there is
nothing worth fighting for anymore. To love means stop hiding behind excuses
and own up your mistakes, apologize when you mess up and make an efforts to
make things better. Love is stop judging each other for failing to be who we
want each other to be, for what we want the relationship to be and embrace the
reality of the now whether it is the relationship or the people we are at each
stage of the relationship.
Love is being there for each other, deciding to grow
together but still having enough space to be able to nurture our dreams,
passions and go after them. It is encouraging each other and bring out the
best. It is also making concessions sometimes. It is putting the other person
first sometimes because when you love, you have the other person’s interests at
heart. Love is being accountable for the other person’s heart while still
understanding that you are not responsible for their emotions and their
feelings.
Love is everything but easy. It is multifaceted and there is
no contradiction. It is just what it is and you just have to embrace it as it
is, even though it never makes sense. It never has and never will because it
not meant to make sense and because the matters of the heart never make sense. Love
can be a mess. And I would go as far as to quote Rainbow Rowell and say that “Love
is like art, it is not supposed to look nice and beautiful, it is supposed to
make you feel something.”
Love is beautiful and yet, it can be messy and complicated sometimes. There is no contradiction : it is just multifaceted.
Love is beautiful and yet, it can be messy and complicated sometimes. There is no contradiction : it is just multifaceted.
-Excerpt from a memoir I will never write #2
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