It has been a minute since I have been here and I am more than happy to be back. For some reasons - reasons I know nothing about- I can't seem to find a one size fits all magic formula that works when it comes to opening my articles and blow your mind beyond imagination. On the other hand, I can't seem to familiarize myself with the good ol' and generic "hi people! I hope you are doing fine! today we will be talking about... blah blah blah". So I will get straight to the point hoping you will keep reading anyway...
So a lot of things have been happening lately and among them I recently hit the quarter of century milestone (yes I know...). I thought about writing things I have learnt as I got older but then I changed my mind. Instead, I decided to talk about something more meaningful, something which has made the headlines of the news in the African community and been the major topic of gossip among the community. If you haven't guessed it yet, it is the wedding (religious) of Eto'o and his wife Georgette. Once again, if you have followed the actuality regarding this couple, you would understand why them taking their mariage to this next step is such a big deal.
Eto's fils and his wife Georgette at their wedding, celebrated by the pope Francois Ier 🎆🎊🎉
At the age where all the hormones start to kick in, the desire to find a soulmate and start a family becomes an obsession, I tried to understand why Georgette decided to salvage her marriage and give it a second chance. I wanted to understand why, in a midst of a generation that throws away anything that fails to work according to the plan, she decided to stay and even agreed to engage in holy matrimony. And even though some people seem to put forth the money as the main reason why she stayed, the most obvious one to me is love. Why? because Eto'o admitted that when they both started dating, she was the one bringing the bacon on the table and that I quote " He was an amateur soccer player that no club wanted to sign". So truly money has never been an issue for her and it certainly isn't now. But why would love be the most obvious reason? Let's look at the definition of love according to the Bible:
Now I don't know if Georgette is a christian but the love she displays is along the line of what was said a little higher. Only someone that loves you form the type of love that was aforementioned can overlook the hurt and humiliation she was put through. Only some that loves you from such a pure love can decide to forgive and continue the walk she has started years ago with the man she wanted to grow old with. And it can only make sense because they have a history together, a commitment to pick each other up whenever one of them falls. She could have judged him, condemned him, expose him in ways only women knows how to do but she didn't. She could have stood with the popular opinion but she didn't. She stood in silence, protected the honor of her husband despite hers being thrown into the mud. She protected her husband and showed the perseverance of her love by walking through the aisle to join her husband in holy matrimony before men and before God.
Not every woman would tolerate a cheating man let alone stay with him and take their marriage to the House of the Lord (hellu'r?!). This show another trait that only pure love can display and this trait is trust. You cannot decide to take your marriage before God if you don't trust the person you are walking with to take care of your heart and your feelings. Moreover, she stayed because she decided to forgive; she displayed a will to move past the wrong her husband did her and look at all the things he did right.
Rita Thornton- The Vow
She decided to look past her husband's flaws, imperfections and mistakes because the truth is we are all humans and we all make mistakes; nobody is immune to it and God forbid we find ourselves in the position Samuel found himself in because as inflexible, unforgiving as we are, we will probably be denied the compassion we refuse to show others.
A marriage is made of many things and mistakes are part of it. And so is forgiveness. Maybe the reason why people don't seem to understand her choice is because of their inability to forgive. Or perhaps, it is because the quality of the love they are giving for true love has the power and capacity to overcome the most difficult hurdles relationships and marriages are tested through.
As I have reached the age where I am ready to settle down and getting comfortable with the idea of spending the rest of my life with somebody else, I can only salute the bravado of Georgette and the slap she put in the face of Becky with the good hair. I can only salute the attitude of Queen she had and the classy way she handled things and proved people wrong by not leaving. One thing I took away from all that is that true love is not dead and that as long as there is still a will to make things work and carry through, people's opinion doesn't matter.
Long live to the Eto'o couple and may the haters keep on hating!
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